The best parents do recognise their children’s successes, of course.
And the best couples also soon realise that they’re happiest when they focus on the positive.
Psychologists understand very well how best to motivate people. It’s to recognise and reward them whenever they do things right. But that doesn’t come naturally. Children, for example, have a truly wonderful talent for being irritating, so parents often find themselves concentrating on what their children are doing wrong. And hardly notice what they’re doing well.
The best parents do recognise their children’s successes, of course. And the best couples also soon realise that they’re happiest when they focus on the positive. Helping each other to get things right, rather than endlessly going on about whatever they get wrong.
