These feelings are not signs of weakness, they reflect that you genuinely cared.
However, it is crucial not to allow these emotions to cloud your sense of self-worth.
Being blocked or overlooked does not mean you are inadequate; it simply means the other person made a different choice, and perhaps was not honest or mature enough to communicate openly.
I am a teacher aged 33 working at a big school. I got interested in a female colleague who was a newcomer (she stayed for about one month). When I approached her, she told me she isn't interested in a romantic relationship and that she is in another relationship, and that she doesn't want to waste my time. The funny thing I realised was that whenever I called her, it was like she had blocked me. When I asked her about it, she told me that her phone doesn't allow new numbers and she hadn't saved my contact. I made the decision not to contact her and never to give her attention, because she sounded rude. I overheard some colleagues say that she isn't interested in low-paid contractual staff (she earns more than I do). The dilemma is that the school headteacher is also interested in her, although he is married, while I am single. Should I talk to her again or just continue moving on and ignore her confusing attention? I don’t want her to gossip about me to colleagues.
You did nothing wrong by showing interest. That’s brave. But her response—dismissing you, blocking you, maybe gossiping about you—tells you all you need to know. Here's the thing bro, You dodged a bullet. A woman who can’t reject you without blocking you isn’t someone who can handle a real relationship. Let her be. Focus on yourself, upgrade your game, and trust me when the right one comes along, she won’t need to block your number or pretend her phone has magical anti-single-men software. For now? Chin up, man. Laugh it off. You’re not in the drama anymore. If she’s not texting you back, it’s not a mystery. It’s a memo. And the memo says: next, please. Freezer, Nairobi
