We have these rules that we announce with bravado before the relationship – and then love comes to us, and all the rules fly out the window.
Anywhere you turn online lately, there’s a dumpster fire. Last week, it was our local Tinder Swindler. Did you read that story? This guy was dating 25 different women at the same time! All the while seeing them relatively often, sending them birthday messages and presents, having them visit him while hiding the other women’s cars in the basement…and borrowing money from each one to pacify another. It was a crazy love polygon to try and follow. Past a certain point, it wasn’t even ‘followable.’
Swindler stories are a dime a dozen. If you’ve had the misfortune of dating in this pool, then you’ve likely been swindled a little bit. Just a touch. Unless you married your very first boyfriend, which might be a swindle in itself. I kid! I do wonder, though, at the reactions some people are having to these swindlers. First of all, for this supposed church boy who was promising women suns moons and stars, the mention of solar systems was a red flag immediately. But for those of us who know better, we know the lengths women are willing to do for love.
