Recently, Bro Msoh, an elder childhood friend, shared how he was having issues with his family, and he wanted to get as far away from them as possible. Way back when in the ‘hood, we referred to any elder male - who, though, was not old enough to be our parent - as Bro Msoh; which means, Big Bro. “I want to break free,” Bro Msoh said, adding that the family relationship and dynamics made him feel like a slave.
I thought that was strange, as I knew him to be the most loving brother one could ever have. Since I knew him, Bro Msoh was always going out of his way to help his folks, even if it meant him having to go without some things. “Bro, you can't cut off your family just because of disagreements,” I argued. “Small bro, there's a difference between disagreements and dysfunction,” he explained, “and knowing which is which will determine how you relate with folks.”
