I feel like it’s not my place to get involved that deeply in their relationship.
It’s also a bit awkward since I’ve always been the one he confides in, and I worry about crossing boundaries.
Alex says I’m being selfish for not helping him, and now our friendship feels strained.
I’m a 29-year-old single woman, and I’ve been close friends with Alex (not his real name) for five years. Recently, Alex started dating a woman he’s completely smitten with, but they’ve been having issues. He asked me to intervene and help smooth things over because he thinks I “understand her better as a fellow woman.” At first, I tried offering him advice, but now he wants me to talk to her directly and “explain his intentions.” I feel like it’s not my place to get involved that deeply in their relationship. It’s also a bit awkward since I’ve always been the one he confides in, and I worry about crossing boundaries. Alex says I’m being selfish for not helping him, and now our friendship feels strained. Am I the bad person here for stepping back? How do I handle this?
