Performance anxiety, worrying about being able to satisfy your husband, can create a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You must work on this dilemma with your husband.
He must support you in rebuilding your intimacy and confidence.
I’ve recently started wondering whether I’m pleasing my husband in bed, and I’m too scared to ask him. I can’t bring myself to have that conversation with him since I am not sure of his answer but the uncertainty is killing me. What do I need to do to be great for him?
How long have you been together? When did the "recently" begin and for how long have you been wondering about pleasing your husband? Do you have underlying or unresolved domestic issues? Intimacy is a collective responsibility. What is it that you used to do or how you did it then that you're not doing recently? If he's not complaining, then he could be fine with it or he could be suffering in silence especially if he's not sure how you would react if he raised the issue. He could be scared to raise the issue just as much as you do.
