Beware of the conniving woman who mimics ‘wife material’
A conniving woman is a dangerous imitation of the virtuous woman.
What you need to know:
- Her greatest weapon is her powerful sexual pull, born out of being completely unrestrained.
- She portrays herself as high-class, but in reality, she depends on others to climb socially.
I’m dating a very attractive woman who has many male admirers. She even admits that she once dated men for money. Now she says she wants something serious, but I’m not sure whether she’s truly wife material or just using me. How can I tell the difference?
Hi,
Beware of the conniving woman. She is a dangerous imitation of the virtuous woman. She craves the image of being married and the benefits of having a committed man, yet she lacks the loyalty and heart of an honest wife.
Her greatest weapon is her powerful sexual pull, born out of being completely unrestrained. She flaunts her charms to any man who will look. She portrays herself as high-class, but in reality, she depends on others to climb socially. Through her craftiness, she secures help from men in business and jobs. Before long, she gathers a huge following because she offers men the illusion of intimacy.
You may fall deeply in love with her for two reasons. First, she appears highly sought after by other men. This crowd of admirers makes you believe that marrying her would be the ultimate prize. In truth, you are the greater prize because you have standards and integrity.
Second, you will sense that she is troubled — her obsessive need for attention gives her away. She will share stories of past traumas, and you will sympathise. This sympathy may awaken your instinct to rescue her. Since she is sexually uninhibited, she will not deny you anything, and this will make you feel special. But in reality, she offers the same to many others.
If you marry her, you may become deeply devoted, but her philosophy of “freedom” in relationships will trap you. She will continue entertaining other men while expecting you to trust her. To prove you're not insecure, you will allow her freedom. More freedom than a married person would ever allow.
Her jobs will have many shady areas, like staying out late or being away for days, and you will have no access to know what's going on. You're supposed to trust her. She will call other men by the same pet names she calls you.
Meanwhile, you will be breaking your back to give her a good life and be the wonderful man she always praises you to be. She is a master of flattery, and she makes you think you're the best thing that ever happened to her. As long as you don't ask her to respect the union and have boundaries around men, that is.
This is not your typical drama queen. She has a gift of charm, smooth talk, and public appeal. She draws crowds, leaving men and women captivated. Under her influence, you may find yourself compromising your values, chasing social media attention, and abandoning the stable life you once had. Eventually, honourable people will distance themselves, leaving you surrounded only by shallow admirers.
If you’re lucky, you will recognise this trap and walk away in time. If not, she may lead you into ruin.
Be wary of women who openly admit to dating men for money. That mindset reveals that her body and affection have been treated as commodities. She may excuse it as “father hunger” or financial struggles, but girls who date older men because of emotional wounds don't commercialise the interaction. And if it was a financial fix because of parental neglect when she was in college, the behaviour would have stopped at once the moment she could hustle for herself.
If you marry such a woman, you will not have a true partner. You will simply become the caretaker husband while she continues her escapades.
