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Dilemma: My wife doesn’t want any kind of sex and it’s frustrating…
What you need to know:
- Tip toeing around the conversation will only make things worse.
- You have disclosed to her what you want, in turn you should be ready to hear her truth so that you can mutually address what the future looks like for both of you.
- If being honest can lead to the dissolution of your marriage, then you are in a marriage of convenience playing pretend which is as good as not being married.
After 28 years in marriage, I am now craving another kind of intimacy. Not sex, simply cuddling and being held close while nude. When I suggested it, my wife was not at all interested. She told me she has zero interest in physical intimacy. She then agreed that we could just lie in bed fully clothed, as usual. But this is just awkward and humiliating for me, because it is obvious that she is not invested at all in my presence. At times I consider asking her if she could accept my seeking intimacy elsewhere, but I think this would lead to the end of our marriage. I feel trapped. I love my wife but my resentment is growing.
I understand your agony and frustration. It is disappointing that you feel desperate because the person who should take care of you emotionally is not there for you. Find ways to rekindle the love. Find activities you can do together. If the situation does not improve, consider seeking marriage therapy.
Calvin Queens, Blogger & Writer
