Even these days, when anything goes, most couples are uncomfortable talking about intimacy. And there’s one topic that rarely ever gets mentioned. Aftercare. In fact, many couples don’t ever really think about it, let alone set out to do it well.
Aftercare means doing whatever it takes to help your partner to feel loved and comfortable after making love. Because during intimacy, neuro-chemicals like oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine are released that create big emotional shifts. Those mood changes feel good at the time, but you can feel strange as your neuro-chemical levels fall and the emotions changes unwind. For example, both men and women can suffer from a weird mix of sad, anxious, irritable or aggressive feelings. Maybe even for hours.
