If bad behaviour doesn’t improve after you’ve talked things through, then it probably never will.
Don’t tolerate a partner who tries to control you, puts you down or repeatedly threatens to break up with you.
How do you know what’s normal in a relationship if you haven’t had many? Most of us start off with ideas and expectations about relationships from novels, films, the internet and friends, all of which tend to play up the drama. And some good and long-lasting relationships are intense and dramatic! But there are still some things you shouldn’t put up with.
So don’t be tempted to overlook bad behaviour, however excited you are about your new partner. Because if bad behaviour doesn’t improve after you’ve talked things through, then it probably never will. And life will gradually become miserable. For example, openness and honesty are the essential foundations for building trust in a relationship. So if your new partner is lying to you, you’ll never feel secure.
