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Ladies, this is what your husbands want
A few weeks ago, I gave men a sneak preview of the wish list that every married woman carries in her handbag, a list that spells out how they would want their husbands to treat them.
What you need to know:
- Going by the number of men who mentioned this one, sex is a big deal to men.
- In summary, show enthusiasm, initiate more, dress for it, smell nice and be bold.
- While at it, they say that we should not bring up doomes just when he is getting into the mood.
A few weeks ago, I gave men a sneak preview of the wish list that every married woman carries in her handbag, a list that spells out how they would want their husbands to treat them.
Quite a number of men wrote back, and convinced me that it would only be fair if I also let the women in their lives know what they would like from them.
How could I refuse especially when they made my work easier and sent me their wish list? I have to confess though, that as I went through their detailed list, I found myself humming that tune from Mission Impossible to some of the entries.
Anyway, here is your chance to make your man the happiest in Kenya.
Be a good cook:
They say that you must be able to make pliant chapatis, mouthwatering biryani, delicious fish and tasty ugali at the drop of a hat. If this is a challenge, they suggest that you register for cooking classes, which they will gladly pay for.
Be of cheerful nature:
Apparently, men have a phobia for moody women. Have a cheerful countenance and he will start running straight home from work. If he did something to upset you, tell him, because he is not psychic.
Go light on the makeup:
Apparently, men are put off by too much makeup. They do not know how to tell you this, so they simply keep their mouths shut. Oh, they also wish you would leave your eye brows alone! Humming that tune…
Be in the mood for sex, anytime, most of the time:
Going by the number of men who mentioned this one, sex is a big deal to men. In summary, show enthusiasm, initiate more, dress for it, smell nice and be bold.
While at it, they say that we should not bring up doomes just when he is getting into the mood, or after the deed. They are also tired of the boundaries and sanctions you insist on having in the bedroom.
Go with the flow, they say. Wrote one man,
“We already have power black outs to contend with, unruly matatus to deal with and Mututho restrictions to abide to – kindly ask my wife to see the doctor about her constant headaches and fatigue.”
Compliment and appreciate him:
It turns out that men also like to be told how good looking they are, and how besotted we are with them. Ladies, turn on the charm.
No supermarket please:
“It is not in our wiring to walk up and down the supermarket aisles for hours, looking for heaven-knows what,” read one email from an obviously frustrated man, who reminded me not to publish his name.
“Dragging your husband to the supermarket is like trying to make a camel get into an igloo.” Read another.
Respect and submit to him:
The men say that you have the habit of belittling or scorning them when they talk about their ambitions or dreams, especially in the presence of others.
They wish that you would be their loudest cheer leader, and praise their plans, instead of criticising them.
Don’t mother him:
Men hate being smothered - they want their space and freedom. They say there really is something called a ‘nothing moment’, when they brains are on idle mode.
They would appreciate it if we could stay mum when he is in his space.
“We know you have a bank of 10,000 words a day, which you need to get out, but who says you should direct all of them at us?” quipped one man.
I found myself humming that tune again at this one, because our need to talk is too great to just switch off.
There you go, my fellow women, all you ever needed to please a man. Oh, before I forget, he wants you to know that he sees no difference between yellow and orange.
