The thrill of meeting someone new and falling helplessly head over heels is usually seen as infatuation. That is where it all begins. But soon enough, this hormone-driven spark fades, leaving you to weigh whether you really love the object of your fancy or not. PHOTO | FILE
In the book I Only Want to Get Married Once, author Chana Levitan quotes research that shows that infatuation lasts anywhere between 18 months to three years, but once the infatuation phase is gone, you will know because everything will feel different; you might feel as if you have fallen out of love.
When that happens, it is time to build your relationship, not based on a fickle spark, but based on the solid foundation of commitment, intimacy and mutual respect.
The thrill of meeting someone new and falling helplessly head over heels is usually seen as infatuation. That is where it all begins. But soon enough, this hormone-driven spark fades, leaving you to weigh whether you really love the object of your fancy or not.
If your new love meets all your requirements, but the initial magic that rode on neuro-chemicals has waned, you can still cultivate a solid relationship with him. Nairobi-based psychologist Dr Chris Hart, says that to begin with, you should not dismiss a relationship just because the initial fireworks of infatuation have worn off.
