Happy spouses learn to ignore the bad stuff and focus on the good. So if your partner’s bad-tempered one morning, don’t make it a big deal. Just ignore it.
Then when they do something nice, make a comment on that. Guess what will happen? They’ll do more of the good stuff, and less of the bad.
It’s a lot easier than you imagine. Just emphasise the positive in your marriage, be nice to one another, think of each other’s needs, and your marriage will be one of the winners.
Everyone knows that you have to work at your marriage. But no-one really believes it. Instead most of us run our marriages on autopilot, and somehow expect the relationship to take care of itself. That doesn’t work. It takes real time and effort to understand and appreciate your partner.
