Help me connect my lonely cousin to a diligent wife

I have a male cousin who is 50 years old, a civil servant, legally divorced with three kids – two in college and one in upper primary. He is a strong Christian and wants to bid farewell to loneliness. Can anyone connect him with a partner, a Godly wife with similar attributes, possibly with one child?

He has been a single father for nearly 10 years and has been trying to date for an eternity, but meeting the right match has been a challenge. He desires an equally mature, strong Christian lady with solid values and morals, preferably a graduate and above, who is stable in employment or has prospects. Ideally, she would be based in Nairobi. A lady without children would have an added advantage.

Perhaps your media house could reinstate the soulmates column or at least privately connect people. He doesn't mind if you connect him with someone. Contact me for more information.

Ombongi

READER’S ADVICE

Most single women his age will have probably been married at some point, so they are either going to be divorced or widowed. Most of them will probably have children. Even some women who have never been married may have children. If he's only interested in women who have never married or had children, he may be looking for a unicorn.

He should think of the things he enjoys most, and do those things. Talk to his friends and let them know who he is looking for, like he shared with you. He should go online, as there are so many match making sites and dating sites. He should check out which one is best in his area because many sites are area specific as well where you have a greater chance to meet and finalise things. He should hang in there because it won’t happen overnight.

FRED LASTBORN JAUSENGE - DUBAI,UAE 

First I want to congratulate your cousin for educating his children. He did not rush in another relationship after his divorce. I believe there were enough reasons that led to the divorce. In finding a new partner, apart from looking for all the qualities you have mentioned, he should look for a God fearing person. Personaly, I believe there are people who strictly follow church doctrines but they do things against the norms of the Bible. I call them religious people. May God guide him to a faithful partner.

Rev Geoffrey Avudiko, Senior Pastor, Mitume P.A.G Church, Kitale

EXPERT’S TAKE

Thank you for reaching out with your request. From your narration you have confirmed that finding the right person is not easy considering he has tried dating over the years. I have no idea where he has been meeting his prospectives. I would recommend he tries the social circles of people who share his faith. The best place is to network within the church community to increase his chances of ticking off the box of mutual values. There is no guarantee that he will find compatibility but it elevates his odds. His priest/pastor may know of social Christian groups where he can attend and mingle. It is a journey of trial and error because he will not find someone without mingling with social pools. 

Maurice Matheka, Relationship Counsellor

NEXT WEEK’S DILEMMA

Hello, my name is David. I have a friend who's is becoming a drunkard and it pains me a lot. He's much older than me and when I try to discuss his predicaments with him he simply ignores me but I hope when he gets your side of advice he's going to get some sense.

He was married but lost his family year's back. The wife got married and left with his child. He however hasn't disclosed to me what happened before they parted ways. When people ask where or how he spends his money since he doesn't have a family, it haunts him enormously. The sad part is that he thinks by getting drunk he will wipe off his predicament. Sadly, He has resulted in taking alcohol with him at the place of work.  I hope through your help we can save him from this nightmare.

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