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Dilemma: What can I do to attain sexual satisfaction?
I am a woman in my 50s and have been with my husband for decades. I used to have wonderful orgasms. Why did they stop and how can I get them back? Is stress the culprit? Is it my age? My husband and I continue to have sex regularly and I enjoy the intimacy, but I really miss vaginal orgasms and the release they brought. What do I do?
Your sexual fetish at 50 has a downward graphical representation, but that does not mean you can't orgasm or enjoy the encounter with your husband. All you need to do is to check your lifestyle. Anything stressful in your life, busy schedule or even the connection you have with your husband can have a direct impact on your current sex life. Any romantic interactions, such as late-night dates, should not be thrown out of the window just because you're 50. Try visiting a sex therapist together for guidance.
Juma Felix
While some people may experience changes in their orgasmic function as they age, others may not. There are several factors that can influence orgasmic function. Decreased estrogen and testosterone levels can affect libido and orgasmic function. This can also happen during menopause, due to hormonal changes. Certain medical conditions, such as diabetes, high blood pressure, and neurological disorders, can affect orgasmic function. If you have either of these underlying conditions, the medication you use, such as antidepressants and blood pressure medications, can affect orgasmic function. Stress is another likely culprit. It is very important to speak with a healthcare provider. They can help you identify any underlying causes and provide guidance on potential treatments or lifestyle changes that may help.
D Mutunga,
From the school of life
FROM THE EXPERT
Vaginal orgasms stem from applied and received stimulus on the vulva structure. When the most sensitive part of the membrane receives stimulus, it swells to induce spasms that produce a vaginal orgasm. The membrane can stop swelling, which results in the inability to orgasm. It is not an age thing, but a vulva function issue that can be resolved. Despite your feelings, the act of mechanical sex between you and your husband can also over time cause the inability to orgasm. If you reach out to me or any other sex expert, I can give you a comprehensive assessment rather than speculation. I am confident that your core issue is related the erogenous area of your vagina.
Maurice Matheka is a relationships expert
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