Dilemma: My nanny is going home for Christmas and my wife can’t cook...
There should be no problem contracting a cook to step in so that your wife can relax during these festive times.
What you need to know:
- You could buy recipe books and invest some time in the two of you trying out cooking together as part of your bonding.
- Your most practical solution is to contract a cook in the pretext of wanting her to chill out for the time your nanny is away.
My wife is an amazing woman and a great mum to our son. However, cooking is not one of her greatest strengths. The nanny does most of the cooking. Now, next month, the nanny will be taking a two-week break for the festivities. My wife will want to cook for us, because I will be working the entire time. But her food is not tasty at all. Can we get a temporary nanny? I am willing to pay for some good meals during the two weeks. How do I propose this without hurting my wife’s feelings?
We all have strengths and weaknesses, which is very normal and is what makes us human. I don't know if you noticed the weakness of your wife before settling down with her. I believe she has an area of strength too, begin by praising her in that area. Let her know that you value her and, in the process, release the cat from the bag! I mean, introduce the topic of getting somebody to help with the cooking. You can put it in a way of relieving her, and not the inability to cook well. I believe it will work. Even so, teach her slowly how you want the food prepared. All the best.
~ Rev Geoffrey Avudiko Senior Pastor in Mitume P.A.G Church, Kitale.
The problem is always how a message is communicated. If you say it nicely, it may end up being a light moment filled with laughter. This is your wife; you are in it for the long haul. If you don’t talk about it, your son will definitely bring it up later, and children can be brutal. Say it with love and offer a solution, that is, paying for someone to help, or cooking the meals when you can. Do not forget to enjoy these moments when you have the house to yourself.
Briana, a wife and mum from Kajiado
FROM THE EXPERT
Considering your nanny is the primary cook in your home, I do not see an issue if you suggest contracting a cook to step in so that your wife can relax during these festive times. Unless she is fighting for the responsibility, I do not foresee a problem.
You could buy recipe books and invest some time in the two of you trying out cooking together as part of your bonding. If you can’t make that effort, then your most practical solution is to contract a cook in the pretext of wanting her to chill out for the time your nanny is away.
Maurice Matheka is a relationship expert
NEXT WEEK’S DILLEMA
We had a big fight with my husband and we are currently not speaking to each other. It has been two weeks of silent treatment. We are supposed to host visitors next week, his friends, but I am honestly not looking forward to that. Should we just pretend all is well for the guests to be comfortable or do we cancel the visit?
