uch ignorant men have been known to peddle myths that women with good lubrication are promiscuous; that they have sexually transmitted diseases, and that if married, they are unfaithful to their husbands.
Innocent women are falling prey to these myths; women from a number of communities in Southern and Eastern Africa are using herbs to dry up their vaginas before sex.
Others douche with chemicals including soaps, acids and various salts for this.
It is unusual for chama members to be shy even when discussing matters of an extremely intimate nature. I was therefore taken aback when they invited me for their monthly meeting last Saturday and took 15 minutes to get to the point. In case you have never heard of chama, it is a women’s welfare group of which I am the only male member. I am invited to meetings when sexual matters are to be discussed.
“I do not know where to start,” the chairperson said, avoiding eye contact with me. “You see, some of us have doors as wide as the gates of hell, but what we desire are heavens’ gates – narrow ones.” I did not have a clue what they meant.
