Most of us are pretty ordinary, but deep inside we always feel special. That feeling comes from the way our parents looked after us when we were small children, and so we spend the rest of our lives trying to find a partner who’ll make us feel the same. So, always do your best to make your spouse feel special!
That starts on the very first day you meet. Because when you make someone feel special, they’ll start to fall for you. Make them feel special all the while you’re dating, and don’t stop when you get married because consistently showing your partner that you understand, love and admire them every day, means they’ll be yours forever.
Make your spouse feel that they’re special to you by closely looking at them whenever they’re speaking. Lean a little closer, smile, and nod in acknowledgement at whatever they’re saying. Always show a genuine interest in your partner and remember all the little details of their day because dropping little remembered details into your conversation shows your partner that you care. So, always ask how their meeting went. Or whether their headache’s gone.
And never miss an opportunity to express approval: ‘That was clever, I’d never have thought of that.’ There will still be plenty of times when you’ll fall out, but those moments won’t break up your relationship against a sincere background of admiration. Men are generally poor at telling their spouses they admire something about them, so if you do that, you will stand out from the crowd. Add little compliments into your sentences. ‘You were the loveliest looking woman there.’ Or ‘Anyone as fit as you can do that easily...’ Your wife will love you for them.
Don’t only praise your partner for what you think are their good points, watch for the things that matter to them too. Women especially like to be praised for their intelligence rather than their appearance. And a guy would love to hear he’s good looking for a change!
Tell your partner the good things you think about them. It’s amazing how few of us do. So even if it’s a bit corny, tell them about it! They can be simple things, like telling him he has nice eyes. Or that she dances well. That he has nice hands. Or that she makes you laugh. Give compliments straight after your partner has done something really nice. Whatever it is, the first thing your partner needs to hear is what you thought about it. So never miss the moment.
Resist the temptation to put your partner down. Digs hurt far more from you than from a stranger. If your spouse compliments you, accept it gracefully. ‘I love that you noticed’. If they ask you about something: ‘How was your day?’ reflect if back: ‘Fine thanks, how was yours?’
The little things that make up love often gradually fade away, but keep telling your partner what makes them special, and your love will never die.
